Stronger than Ever

I think sometimes you just have to accept that the life that you thought you were going to happen, maybe just are not. By the time I hit my half a year of being 27 I will also hit 18 months of being single and without any prospects or anyone interested in me. Its not exactly what I expected for myself. I always thought I would find someone and even if we didn't get married, I would at least have found my person, the team mate I've always wanted. So far I haven't, in fact I haven't even been in a reasonable, healthy relationship for nearly 7 years. Not to say I haven't tried, I just haven't met the right person yet and I know this.

I also realise now that it's pretty unreasonable to expect to have the kind of fairytale life you hoped you would have, or to met someone and stay with them forever. Christina Aguilera is someone I look up to and respect, I have a lot of time for her talent, her strength, her work against domestic abuse and her open honesty about how domestic abuse has affected her life. She has recently filed for divorce from a man she has been married to for five years and to whom she has a son. I'm pretty sure that when she walked down the aisle, she did not picture herself getting divorced, especially not when there was a child involved. Shes 29, only a few years older than me and I bet she didn't imagine being a single mum at that age. Sure she has a lot of money, expensive lawyers and her little boy will want for nothing, but it still doesn't make her situation easy and I bet she did not imagine this is where it would end for her.

Of course she's going to find it a whole load easier than I am to find another man, if that's what she wants, but even still it is just another lesson on how relationships don't always last, even ones where marriage and a child are involved.

I admire her bravery in admitting that there was a problem and coming to a decision about what to do, some people stick there head in the sand and pretend everything is fine when it's not, and this is almost worse and can lead to a child growing up around arguments they might otherwise not have witnessed.

When it comes to the matter of love and relationships, I don't think its possible to expect anything to be the way you thought it would be. And to be open to the very real possibility that you might be one of those people who goes through life with many wonderful things and people, but not that other half you expected. I'm prepared for this, it's not ideal but I realise now that it could happen, and even if I did meet someone, I'm prepared to face that it might not always be there. That's the reality.