state of affairs

This weekend has made me realise something, no matter what people say when it comes down to it they will always pick relationships or love over friendships, they will always come first. If your single, not in love, alone, however you want to put it, you will prioritise other things in your life. Your career, your family, your hobbies and most definitely your friends. They will be really important to you as they are the people who you turn to for support for the love and companionship that we all need.
But people who are in relationships or falling in love or whatever, well most of them will pick that over friends. I watched it happen a bit this weekend, watched friends putting friendships behind their relationships. Most of the time the friend was in their life way before the boyfriend/girlfriend but that means nothing. I found myself feeling like a third wheel this weekend, I found myself being ignored and I found myself realising that this is what will always happen, no matter what.
There is this deep fear in a lot of people that they will end up alone and friends and family don't seem to mean your not alone. If you are single and your 25 or above, at least that seems to be the age right now, you start to prioritise relationships, even unhealthy ones, over really healthy friendships.
I'm not bitter, its just more of a state of fact really and I know that I'd probably be doing the same thing if I had someone in my life like that. I've promised myself that if things do work out the way I want them to I will not do that, that I'll still make time for friends. Of course things change if you meet someone but they shouldn't change to such an extent that your friends start to get pissed of at you for bailing on them time and time again or for always turning up with the other half in tow.
The big problem is that you can't tell them to come alone cause then it looks like you don't like the other half and if you want to keep the friend you have to like the person they choose to be with. Wanting to spend time with them alone doesn't mean you hate their other half it just means you want your friend to yourself for a while, because you are missing something in your life that they have and your priority's are different.
But nothing will ever change, its always going to be this way because people would rather spend the rest of their lives with one person then with a few. Doesn't mean spreading yourself too thin, just means remembering the people you are forgetting about.